The Long Road Back To Black Love

Problem #1 “Look at that White Girl stealing all of our good men!!! Why doesn’t she just stay off of our men and date within her own race?” Although this is ridiculously racist, (an article for another day), I am here to tell my Black Sisters that I understand. Yes, a Black Man claiming to understand the pain you must feel when you see a Black Man, hand and hand walking with a white woman. When it was Black Women who were always there behind the scenes for Black Men during their most trying hours. Martin Luther King Jr, Malcolm X, Booker T. Washington among other prominent men could not have done it if they did not have their Corretas in the background doing more work than they got credit for. At the end of the civil rights movement the only female that recieved mass acclaim was Rosa Parks for not giving up her seat on a bus. Although, that was an incredibly courageous thing to do, it was hardly the epitome of the Black Women’s involvement in the struggle. Swallowing your pride and allowing your brothers and husbands to get all the credit for a day in which Black People could all move up to being equals to white people. So to look up 20, 30 to some 40 years later and what do you see? A black man smiling with his trophy girlfriend, the gleams of his eyes, the reason he has a bounce in his step…A WHITE WOMAN! (OH HELL NAW!!!). All those days, fighting behind the scenes for equality and to look up and see that you were never fighting for equality, but for your black men to walk hand in hand with some white women. How could this be? What happened to Black Love? What happened to the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice?

Problem # 2

“Man, F*ck all Black guys, they are all (negro) hos!” I hear a Black Woman Exclaim as she complains to her friend about how there are no more good Black Men. “You get with one of them and sooner a later they do you dirty. Either they get to thinking that they are cooler than they are, they end up cheating with your friend, a girl you hate or of all women, A White Woman! What ever happened to the good ol days when black love was Black Love? Why can’t I trust my man not to be doing things behind my back? Why can’t I live without fear that my man is just stringing me along until he finds someone he thinks is better?”

If you feel like you have any of these problems, here is my answer.

My sistas, I am about to bring up one of the most radical ideas anyone has ever heard. After I write this....shiiiittt, I don’t this The Voice will allow me to post anymore articles here…alright….here I go. Black Women should begin to date outside their race. Now I know it sounds drastic, but drastic times call for drastic measures right? Let me explain. Every girl (for the most part) knows that one guy who if they really wanted to date, they could date. These guys are loyal, appreciative and listens to what you have to say. So why don’t you ladies date them, “…Because He is not a challenge or he’s too clingy.” Now I say this with the utmost respect for Black Women as possible. Black Women to Black Men are that friend. Now before I get hanged for treason, let’s think about it. Black Men for the most part marry Black Women, but when they are in high school, college and beyond they date outside their race…why? Because We take you guys for granted. We, rather consciously or unconsciously, always know that you are going to be there. We know that Black Women don’t look outside their race. So we have all our fun now with other races and when we decide to settle down, we go looking for the Black Woman who has and will be there all along. Although, Black men have moved on past their race, (at least for bachelor life), Black Women seem reluctant to take that step. With good reason as well, because I mean, what is Black Love, without a Black couple? However, I implore my sistas to venture onward. When you guys take that step forward, Black Men will come flocking back towards their Black Women. If it seems too fairy tale like to some of you, lets put it into context. Have you ever been next to a group of Black men when a black women walks by with a white man. Conversation stops and all eyes are on the couple. As cold stares beam at the couple, the jokes come out. “You know he can’t handle that right. She needa be with a real (negro) like me.” Almost instantaneously that Black woman becomes a jewel to the groups of Black Men because she is now no longer that friend that is always going to be there, but a treasure. Women that need to be protected and treated like the royalty that Black Women are.

*Disclaimer*

Now before I get calls from my brothas telling me that they woman left them because they suspect their man is cheating on them. ALL BLACK MEN, I REPEAT, ALL BLACK MEN ARE NOT DOGS. There are some, and dare I say, many men that will stand by your side and treat you with respect. If you have a good man, appreciate what you have and he will appreciate you in return. The last thing Black Men, (and all men for that matter) want to hear is them getting blamed for things they did not do. So please have solid proof that your man is “trifling” before you start throwing shit at the fan and making things a lot worse than it is.

...Imeabasi...